Hearing people dating the deaf describe the principle of radioactive dating and radioisotopes decay

I’m lucky I found someone early in my life so I didn’t have to deal with the stressful dating game for long.

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I also have job, because I can do anything but hear.

At the bar scene or anywhere when men talk to me and I try to understand them by reading lips, they act like I’m weirdo so I have to tell them that I am deaf.

I don't use Deaf with a capital D because those who use Deaf with a capital D are part of a specific community, with sign language as their primarily means of communication.

I'm deaf with a lower case d because I can't hear without the use of cochlear implants, but I never learned sign language and don't have much of a desire to.

Its hard to meet men who aren’t scared of deaf people; the ones I meet seem not willing to try to be patient or to know me better.

They never find out I’m a lot of fun like other people in general; and I like the outdoors, riding bikes, and camping.

The difficulties boil down to a few major areas: cultural difference, communication difference, and power dynamics.

Cultural difference: You know how they say "women are from Venus, men are from Mars"? We really DO think and perceive things differently from Hearing people in many ways.

Of course, it shouldn’t really matter who a Deaf person gets together with – it should be about their connection with that person, not how much that person can hear. Will they remember to communicate clearly even when they’re stressed, or they’re in a group, or when the initial spark dies down and they’re arguing about who should have done the washing up?

But in reality, the success of any relationship comes down to communication, and this is the particular challenge facing couples where one is deaf and one hearing. Of course, the deaf person bears just as much responsibility for this.

Will they also remember to communicate clearly, to repeat things that aren’t understood?

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